There are those times where out of the blue Bill will bring up a issue on hiss mind. He wanted to go over again this rotation that he wanted (and needs) to stay with his three different daughters in three completely places to live. A nice deal. But at this moment, Bill began expressing his concerns about aging and not wanting to become dependent on others. He talked about his concern over money, the wish to sell or rent the house and what would happen to him when he got older.
I listen intently to his anxieties. When it was time to say something, I thought about the philosophical books Bill enjoys, one in particular by this women whose name escapes me at the moment. I read her and basically it a kind of eastern attitude toward living in the present of life. I mentioned to Bill about none of us knowing the future of how it will all turn out. All we had is right now, this trip, this dinner we were sharing. Being dependent on love ones is not a bad thing, as fortunate is the man/woman who has those that love and wish to take care of him. I did bring up to him is that that the things he could control and take care of remaining independent are taking his medications and not having to have someone always remind him. I am somewhat of the belief that he is not so much forgetful to take his medications as he does not believe they work. In addition, I mentioned within his control was taking care of his health, staying clean, grooming himself and not sleeping 20 hrs a day.
I said, Bill you are a fortunate man. How many people at your stage of life have such a loving family and a Handleizer for travel trips. There are things within your control and those that you or anybody have no control over. We all need to do the things we can and let go and allow life to reveal itself. Neither of us could have ever envision 10 years ago being here on this trip or our other trips with each other. So why waste time trying to figure out the future of it all. Just keep doing meaningful things in our lives, like spending time with family and travel. like family and travel. The important thing to remember that no matter what it is, you will have help dealing with what comes your way.
Grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference
I listen intently to his anxieties. When it was time to say something, I thought about the philosophical books Bill enjoys, one in particular by this women whose name escapes me at the moment. I read her and basically it a kind of eastern attitude toward living in the present of life. I mentioned to Bill about none of us knowing the future of how it will all turn out. All we had is right now, this trip, this dinner we were sharing. Being dependent on love ones is not a bad thing, as fortunate is the man/woman who has those that love and wish to take care of him. I did bring up to him is that that the things he could control and take care of remaining independent are taking his medications and not having to have someone always remind him. I am somewhat of the belief that he is not so much forgetful to take his medications as he does not believe they work. In addition, I mentioned within his control was taking care of his health, staying clean, grooming himself and not sleeping 20 hrs a day.
I said, Bill you are a fortunate man. How many people at your stage of life have such a loving family and a Handleizer for travel trips. There are things within your control and those that you or anybody have no control over. We all need to do the things we can and let go and allow life to reveal itself. Neither of us could have ever envision 10 years ago being here on this trip or our other trips with each other. So why waste time trying to figure out the future of it all. Just keep doing meaningful things in our lives, like spending time with family and travel. like family and travel. The important thing to remember that no matter what it is, you will have help dealing with what comes your way.
Grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference
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